So, I finally PAID for the court papers to be done.
Not your Daddy.
Odd right? He's going around saying I'm keeping you from him and not allowing him to see you...but yet I would go and spend the money to get it done so he CAN see you and so he CAN spend time with you. But then again, that's how your Daddy is.
I remember our conversations. There was one particular conversation where he told me that once I got the papers drawn up to send it to his lawyer.
Why is it, that he had his own lawyer, but yet didn't get the papers done?!
He said he misses you. Says he loves you. But yet he stalled when it came time to get the papers done. All in all it boiled down I'm guessing cause he did not have the money to get it done. Why? Cause Daddy doesn't have a job. Come to think of it...I don't think he has a job now. Hope your Daddy changes his mind really soon about the employment issue...
Anyhow...We finally get a court date. Your Daddy brings his girlfriend Thelma to court with him that day. I saw her...He didn't introduce us though. Wonder why...O_o
He didn't contest that he was your Daddy...so we came upon an agreement...he gets to see you every other weekend. And we will be revisiting the issue of child support later on this month.
Just to give you a quick background of our relationship with your Daddy...Mommy and Daddy had crossed this bridge before. There were plenty of times when I tried to make a compromise with your Daddy so that we could have a set schedule...but once again, since we could not come to an agreement. I spent MY money and got it to where the court will decide. And since I had to pay for it and not him...I am going to make sure that I get the child support money from him for you.
This is not the first arrangement your Daddy and I made. I am hoping however, that this is the one he sticks to and abides by, but we won't know how well this will last.
After our hearing, I called your Daddy to let him know that he will need to get stuff for you while you are in his care for the weekends. I am not sending you with anything like I did before. He couldn't remember what I was telling him over the phone, so after we hung up, I texted him what size you are currently wearing and what all he would need to pick up for you. I even offered to meet him at Walmart WITH you so that we can all shop for you to make sure that he would get the correct items. He declined. Apparently, Daddy is low on funds so he wouldn't be able to go shopping for you just yet. I also asked to meet Thelma. Since you will be spending time with her I wanted to meet her...but of course, your Daddy told me that I would not be able to meet her and that I would have to deal with it. He told me to "Stay out of my life take care of our daughter and leave me alone unless it's absolutely unavoideable." Unfortunately for the both of us, he gets you every other weekend...Sorry, no can do. He also text me, "Look I don't like you but we have a daughter I love so I will put up with you and that's that."
So fine...contact him only in regards to you. I left it at that.
I contacted him again a week later on Tuesday May 10. Just to ensure that he pick up the stuff so that he would be ready when he comes to pick you up on Friday.
Mommy: Do you have her stuff ready? Friday is just a few days away.
Daddy: Stop bothering me damn botch
Mommy: I'm making sure Serenity has what she needs when u get her for the weekend. How is that bother u? U say u don't have money so it makes me wonder how you gonna provide for her when she's with you.
Daddy: Stop bothering me go nag your punk ass bf if u want to nag someone aight bitch
Mommy: I need to know if I need to send stuff with her since her Daddy has no money.
Daddy: Send that car seat I bought. Or is your bitch ass dad still using it? How about sending the clothes I bought
Mommy: She doesnt fit those anymore and they were all winter clothes
Daddy: Well send my car seat and didn't I say don't talk to me? I know I did is you stupid or something?
Mommy: How bout u go buy another one. And if you don't have one don't come get her :) Have a great day
Daddy: I'll be gettin her either way. Stupid cunt
Mommy: Not without the car seat you aren't
Daddy: I got papers here that says I am with or without. Try and stop me bitch
Mommy: Gladly
Fast forward to Friday when he came to pick you up. He was 15 minutes late coming to get you. On top of that, he walked into the PoBoy shop and thought that he was going to walk out with you. Of course, I walked you to the car, and when we got to the car and he buckled you in...Your Daddy bought you the wrong car seat. He bought you a highback booster car seat that uses the car's seat belt. You are only 24 lbs...way too small for that car seat and so I told your Daddy that it's the wrong car seat. I unbuckled you and told your Daddy that he will need to get another car seat for you. He simply said, "You're not gonna let me have my child?" looks at Thelma and tells her to close the door and he drove off. He got to the end of the driveway, backed up and parked again...walked over to where we were and asked me again "You're not gonna let me have my child?" I let your father know that if he wanted to take you, he needs to get another car seat. His reply "I don't have the money." At this point, Thelma has come over as well and tries to talk to me and says that your Daddy has the court papers for him to take her today and that I should lend him my car seat and he'll have one for her next time. It amazes me how your Daddy would be so irresponsible and would want to put your life at risk with the incorrect car seat. I have been way to kind to your Daddy. And since he insisted that I was a bitch...I guess you can say I eventually became one yesterday. "You're not taking her until you get the right car seat. There's a Walmart & a Babies R Us down the street. You can get it and come back and you can take her." His response again, "I don't have the money for it." Mine, "Exchange the one you got and get the right one. You spent $300 on stuff for our daughter, but you can't spend to get the correct car seat?"This is putting YOUR life at risk.
Your Daddy is livid at this point. He's was very upset with me, and frankly, I could care less. He was so upset that he didn't even continue to talk to me. Thelma did all the talking for him. He didn't ask to use my car seat, she did. She asked me "Is it so hard to lend him your car seat? He hasn't seen her and it's been a year since he's had her." This is where I GOT aggravated. It's really been that long? So what exactly was Daddy doing to try to see you? Did he work to get the money together for the court papers? Apparently not since I got the papers done. So how is it that he loves you and cares for you so much that he did NOTHING to try to get the papers to see you? I can assure you baby girl, he DID NOT have to wait for me to get the papers filed.
Thelma tried to reason with me again to persuade me to lend him my car seat...and I explained to her the text conversation that transpired between your Daddy and I before. I OFFERED to go shopping WITH you so he can get the items AND again I OFFERED to see what he needed. Unfortunately, the only mode your Daddy knows how to deal with me is dick mode. And I let Thelma know that Ricky had an opportunity to get it right. And he refused it. And it's no longer my responsibility to get him grow some balls and man up to be a Daddy to you. If by now he can't do it, I don't know what to say.
Sure enough, he left. The look in your eyes when he left broke my heart. I know that you love your Daddy and that he and I both love you. And I promise you Serenity, THIS IS NOT HOW I WANTED OUR FAMILY TO END UP....but unfortunately for us, that's the case. You asked me "Mommy, where my Daddy? I wanna go with Daddy." I assured you that he will come back and he did half an hour later with the correct car seat. This time Thelma came to get you from me and again I walked to the car. Made sure you were buckled in properly, kissed you good-bye and told you to behave for Daddy.
And off you left.
I know that you will be back to me on Sunday, but this is so hard for me. For 3 years it seemed as if I have been the fighting for you to have your Daddy in your life. He didn't even seem to care, and now the court papers are filed and just as easy as pie he gets to have you every other weekend. If he cared and loved you so much, why didn't he fight for you sooner?! I was able to get the money to make it happen...why couldn't he? There are so many thoughts going through my head, I don't even know what to say or do. I hope and pray that everything works out okay for your sake.
Waiting for you to come home to me on Sunday...
Forever & Always,
Mommy
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